I was having a discussion with a friend of mine. He has some... interesting... fetishes. Some of them don't involve anything I would consider to be physical sex.
I remember seeing a movie once where some guy paid a hooker to throw oranges at him. Is that sex? I
I remember seeing a movie once where some guy paid a hooker to throw oranges at him. Is that sex? I
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Wed, April 16, 2008 - 12:35 PMIt is to the people who have the fetishes...probably not so much for the people who don't.
What is and isn't "sex" is highly subjective, after all. -
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Thu, April 17, 2008 - 6:58 AMWell, I can't get arrested at throwing oranges at a willing partner in public... -
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Thu, April 17, 2008 - 4:14 PMThat's the difference between a legal definition and a functional, de facto one, now innit. Legally, life-long, committed same-sex relationships aren't the same as life-long, committed mixed-sex ones, after all.
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Thu, April 17, 2008 - 4:51 PMIn my humble opinion, fetishes are objects or anything that can lead to sexual arousal. For me my fetishes are leather, women in black leather or women in denim turn me on like crazy.
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Fri, April 18, 2008 - 6:46 AMMine is unaired star trek episodes. -
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Fri, April 18, 2008 - 12:23 PMIs it just arousal or is it orgasm that is the goal?
Interesting question...
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Mon, April 21, 2008 - 11:24 PMSome fetishes are better than sex. My most prevalent fetishes are steel gliding over my skin and physical labor. Both can lead me to orgasm. some of my more minor fetishes are hands, dancers, and corsets. these only bring arousal.
So in my opinion is it brings a form of orgasm then yes it is sex. If it is just a form of arousal but then takes something else to cause orgasm (be it external or internal provocation) then it is not sex.
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Tue, May 6, 2008 - 3:38 AMI'd consider them to be sex.
I have a gay male friend who has a BIG leather glove fetish and he craves having men playfully/lightly slap his face until it's red and lightly choke him (this is all consensual and safewords are used) and put their gloved hands over his mouth.
As for me I love bondage/being restrained, and I'm more of a top/dominant for SM and I consider those to be sex even if they're not always erotic or done with vanilla sex or after vanilla sex.
Just curious, what are your friend's fetishes that you didn't consider to be sex? -
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Mon, May 12, 2008 - 6:57 AMMaybe a touchy subject, but are there some "fetishes" that are so common in the gay community that they should be considered "vanilla?"
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Fri, May 9, 2008 - 2:03 AMI post on another message board and the topic of fetishes came up and people are writing about how while they're completely vanilla their "fetish" is either semen (like just swallowing it, it's not like they do anything unique with it like save it and freeze it or make a shrine out of it or something), or group sex and I personally wouldn't consider those to be fetishes at all, how about you?
As far as my fetishes go you can find those in my profile and facial/body hair (the more the better), is the obvious one.
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Fri, May 9, 2008 - 9:39 PMSex is whatever you want it to be. Like blow jobs,some people don't consider them to be sex,and some do. Technically sex is intercourse,but we all have our opinions. :)
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Sun, May 18, 2008 - 5:11 PMIt really depends on what you are trying to achieve with the fetish. If orgasm is the goal, then 'yes' it is a form of sex. The kinks that work for you might not work for me and that's fine. For instance, the hooker/orange fetish does nothing for me. Frottage while salsa dancing with a lovely Latin lady...yeah, that one works for me. -
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Re: Are fetishes sex?
Fri, July 18, 2008 - 2:16 AMI think of fetishes as foreplay. They arouse the fetishist, but in my limited experience, most do not directly cause an orgasm. If a fetish does cause an orgasm, then I would consider it to be sex. It doesn't matter to me what the fetish is or how many people it "works for". If it arouses one individual, then it is a sexual act (foreplay or sex) for that person.
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