Is it weird to have nothing in common with gay guys. Most of my friends are straight women or lesbians and the few gay friends I have had, I’ve dated. Whenever I am around a gay guy I feel either shy or annoyed because they always think I’m coming on to them. Maybe I'm giving off bad vibes, I don’t know. Maybe its because I’m so masculine and they don’t like masculine guys. Allot of the masculine gay guys I’ve met seem to be sex crazy when that’s usually the last thing on my mind. I feel like a complete contradiction, I act like a straight guy, I think like a straight woman. Though I’ve never had a problem fitting in with straight guys, I always feel like I’m putting on an act around them, probably from being in the closet for 19 years. Sometimes, I feel like I’m putting on a different act around gay guys, and its so pointless, I went through that shit in high school, I sure as hell don’t want to do it now. There seems to be allot of pretentious gay guys out there, pretending like they are king fuck of the universe, I’m from the south where they have perfected pretentious and I hate that, sweetheart. I don’t know if I will ever understand gay men and I am a gay man. There has to be something seriously unhealthy about this. Maybe I’m anti social I don’t know. I’ve come to the conclusion that the whole world is anti social and were all just putting on an act. Well, except for all politicians, right? LOL
posted by:
|
Unsubscribed |
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Sun, February 10, 2008 - 10:07 AMI just get irritated in those groups where everything is queer, just like I get irritated in groups where everything is about the outdoors, or everything is about video games. It just gets really old. From what I've seen it's not uncommon for people to be gay without being in the "gay community", because of the large emphasis on sex. Another way of looking at is Gay Fundamentalism, like the difference between people who are christian, and people who only have christian friends, go to christian stores, eat at christian restaurants, and only own dinner plates with baby jesus. -
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Sun, February 10, 2008 - 11:31 PMNothing in common with lesbians
I'm a dyke. I go to burning man, am an equal opportunity voyuer, love my male friends, think naked guys are hot but not in the "I want sex" way, (although I love gay guy porn but also because girl on girl porn is kinda pathetic) love love love womyn. Not straight womyn, but butch dykes. except for one thing.
I dont live by dyke rules on any level.
I am so far from any cultural norm that it's almost impossible for me to fit in to any group.
I dont agree with lesbian/dyke ideas or relationship rules. Dont fit in to most gay girl ideas of dress, play or social situations.
I'm bored to tears by the lesbian culture.
Cant relate at all to straight peeps.
Bi chicks are way far from my mindset.
Gay guys are great but I'm still far from on the same page as them.
It's a no womyns land for me. -
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 5:53 AMWe are as diverse as the general population. There is room for us all. The only time I find I have an issue with the "gay" community is when I am fighting for equal rights. At that time, I sometimes feel that we are our own worst enemies, fighting to show a mainstream image while trying to be inclusive of every fringe group in the community. It is like we are bi-polar or something.
I recommend talking with a therapist or, in particular, attending group therapy, to air your feelings and get the perspectives of others. It is only important how you feel about yourself in the long run.
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 9:00 AMSee now, I'm always fascinated by lesbian culture. I'm talking the crunchiest of the crunchy boot wearing buzz cut shaping labrys styiling whittle your own tampons out of birch lesbians.
Ok, that last bit is a bit of an exaggeration. -
-
Unsu...
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 1:08 PMI agree, I really love lesbians , my best friend is a lesbian of the crunchy variety and without lesbians I would feel lost in a world full of strangers. praise be lesbianus crunchus
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Sun, May 11, 2008 - 6:09 PMPlease stop...you are getting me hawt...and my partner is out of town on business....
BTW...does shaping the tampons on a lathe count?
-
-
Unsu...
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 1:34 PMWoW, you sound like me if I were a lesbian! There are others out there *le sigh* Burning man intrest me and I think mainstream lesbian sex is cute in a katty sort of way, it's a pitty you don't see more "real" Lesbian sex out there, except maybe xtube, IDK.
heres to us abnormal abnormals lol
p.s. whats equal opportunity voyuer? it sounds cool! -
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 4:54 PMIt's weird, I feel so at home in lesbian culture but it's no secret that I can not and I mean CAN NOT air my "equal opportunity Voyuer" feelings without negative reaction from my fellow lesbians.
(equal opportunity voyuer is nothing more than I enjoy seeing both men and womyn, naked, engaged in sex, checking out guys packages as well as looking down the cleavage of a well rounded girl chest.......) Dont get me wrong tho, I am the kind of person that could give a shit what anyone thinks and speak my mind regardless of the 'rules' but it makes me one of those types that people just dont relate to. I mention burning man in a group of lesbians and before I can say another word, I get the ssssssssss penis's ssssss comment. For fucks sake. Dicks are the greatest toys in the world. I dont want one in me, but how much fun are you guys having. and alternately, I like that I'm not carrying around all that extra stuff and got me an aero dynamic sweet little compact unit all nice and tucked in down there.
I crave like a thirsty dessert crawler just one butch dyke that can dig my space. Freaking needle... ya dig.
<clink> to the abnormals <clink> -
-
Unsu...
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Tue, February 12, 2008 - 8:25 AMssssssssss penis's ssssss hahahaha Dicks are fun I must say, but I LOVE all the name you have for vagina! Cunt, Twat ( my fav.), Cooter, Vajay jay ect... I just love the word Twat, it rolls off the tounge so easily @_@. IDK maybe im weird, well, I know im weird. LOL -
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Wed, February 13, 2008 - 1:59 AMVajay jay seems to be the latest new one.
I just call it my bits or my stuff unless I'm engaged then it becomes pussssay.
Weird = good, fun, entertaining, left of center, interesting, right on, ......
-
-
-
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Wed, May 7, 2008 - 9:09 AMhey, i was wondering what do u mean bi girls are way far from ur mindset? also, what do u mean u dont agree with lesbian/dyke ideas or relationship rules?
-
-
Unsu...
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 1:22 PMNo, I’m not a gay fundamentalist and’m defiantly not a Christian fundamentalist though I do love penis and god. I agree and I think boredom is awful in social settings. I think I may have over exaggerated in my post. Thank you and I love your main picture, thats from the nigth before christmas, right? Watched that last night! :) I think I posted this twice, ugh im being a total right brain tonight- superfreak
-
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 8:59 AMDo you compare yourself to the people you meet?
Well, stop it.
You'll feel much more comfortable, and less likely to care if people act screwy. -
-
Unsu...
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 1:23 PMI have a bad habit of comparing myself to others, not that im a follower by any means but I can second guess myself, sometimes. I think it comes from being the fat kid in 4th grade who was picked last for baseball, I was picked first for football tho LOL
Okay, stop that, bad Eddie, bad Eddie! -
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 1:32 PMHmm, there are a lot of gay men with what I affectionately call "fat kid" syndrome. It takes two forms. One, where you make other people feel bad so you can feel better, and two, when you think other people are better than you and you resent them for that.
We all do it to some degree.
I was picked last for everything. Because I hated sports. I played center field in basketball (digging a trench with my foot and staring at the sun), some sort of "guard" in basketball (looking at the other guys shorts), some kind of floating defense in soccer (see basketball), I put my foot down against football.
The only thing I was any good at was track, and that's because I pretended I was running away from my team.
I was a coach's dream I was...
-
-
Unsu...
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Mon, February 11, 2008 - 1:50 PMI hated sprts too, I remeber plaing in the dirt when I played baseball and I hate hate hated football but the locker room was fun lol I dont think I really found myself until my senior year when I quit football, got a boyfriend and became the art fag.HAHA "fat kid" syndrome, that was a good one. I think some people call that "jelous Bitch"LOL I think I have my isecurities but I try not to begrudge others their happiness. Insecurities suck! I think the people in my life with the latter of the "fat kid" syndrome are what brought this post on but thats a different story. -
-
Re: nothing in common with gay guys
Sun, February 17, 2008 - 8:18 PMI'm pretty androgynous, neither nelly or overtly masculine. I have more female friends than males. I enjoy sex but think that gays are stuck on sex like back in high school. I've heard that in the 70's there use to be some culture, gay dinner theatres and coffee houses.
I feel that there definitely needs to be more balance and less repression.
Peace,
Sunwolf
-
-
-
-
